According to Brother Aiman Azlan in Beetles and Roses forum that day, in Al Quran, marriage is implicitly portrayed as a ‘sign’ where it will point us to HIM.
Ar-rum; 21. What did ALLAH say?
And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.
Men and Women are created for each other for the sake of love.
Because of LOVE.
*Refer to ‘Talking About Love’.
So, there were five highlights about this so-called-related-issue-to-the-topic-of-love during the forum. I’ll just summarize them all. These are the gist I could come out with;-
1- How to manage a friendship between male and female?
There were two guidelines given. First, always check the intention and second, always listen to your heart. Be careful on how mind justifies things. Iman in heart will somehow tell you.
2- What to do if we cautiously fall in love?
‘Our relationship with ALLAH is actually a LOVE STORY.’ (Tariq Ramadhan, 2012) So how do we do with the fact? Follow what have been taught by Him in surah An-Nur, which are to LOWER our GAZE, ‘generate’ modesty, and wear HIJAB properly! <3 nbsp="nbsp" o:p="o:p">3>
Faith will start from love. And what kind of love is that? Love for truth.. :)
3- Is dating HALAL?
Yes, it absolutely IS! ONLY IF you have married. If you do not, what’s the use anyway? You must first remember, “to have a TRUE love, you must attach it with something that doesn’t have up and down – ALLAH!”
So, if you can’t barely stand to fall apart from each other; want to call every single hour, want to meet anytime available, and so on, it is an ADDICTION, not a love!
4- The best: Love BEFORE marriage or love AFTER marriage?
The thing is, you must first understand your own LOVE to know what love really is. Ponder on this line: ‘Who loves you will never touch you before marriage’. This is due to the fact that he/she loves you very much that he won’t destroy your dignity.
This means that love, desire and passion are NOT a guarantee for a successful marriage. So here is an advice; find a compatible partner – in the way of thinking.
5- Marriage at young age. What would you say about that?
It is not about AGE, but MATURITY- financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Islam is not merely about avoiding haram and making things halal.
So, you need to think BEYOND FIQH. Look beyond yourself. Marriage is an investment for us to go for JANNAH.
6- How to be an ideal muslim/ muslimah to our future spouse?
There are useful tips (insya Allah); you must know how to regulate your emotion because success in love depends on how you can regulate your feelings. How you love contributes to what you are going to get LOVE you need.
Love and respect yourself first. How? First, by SOLAH. Second, by obeying Allah’s rules. Fix and ask our heart. Insya Allah, with such purification, we’ll get the answer. Get rid of attachment.
Enough with such lame introduction. Ahha. Sorry.
“Apparently, love may be blind but marriage is the real eye-opener. Getting married: It’s a different game. There should be different rules, different expectations and different way of looking at it, for the couple.”
*Yeah, that’s what I was thinking about, and will develop later. If Allah wills.
TO BE CONTINUED....
p/s: Eid Mubarak, everyone! Taqabbalallahu minna waminkum ;)